Wednesday, October 26, 2011

Things That Make You Go Hmmmmmmm

As most people know, Africa is not known for having the most reliable media. In fact, they often still struggle with distinguishing opinion from fact. But hey, who am I to complain. I enjoy seeing stories about ju-ju man that has been arrested for casting a spell on his neighbor or the million and one stories about corrupt preachers. It's like reading the Onion, except its real news- imagine that!

However, every now and then, I am alarmed at the lies spread in the paper. So, when I ran across a paper that had "Oral Sex Risky", plastered on the front page, I just had to pick it up. Inside, it cautioned men from giving oral sex to women due to the high risk of getting candidiasis in their throat. Since most of my friends are lawyers and not doctors, let me translate- candidiasis is a yeast infection. Now, this is the point that I replay the many experiences of my friends- both male and female, and though there have been a few horror stories, candidiasis of the throat has never been one of them. In fact, I think this article is a complete lie. It's not like I don't think it can't happen, I am sure it does. I just happen to think the odds are like 1 in 1 million.

I was also alarmed because there are never any articles cautioning women against giving oral sex to men, I wonder why this is. I mean, in real life, I don't.  I know articles like these exist because Africa is still a male dominated society. I'm sure the doctor who has done the research brings this point up to all of his girlfriends at the beginning of a relationship.

In fact, I am sure he and his colleagues sat around and concocted the story after the incessant nagging of their wives and women on the side. After all, what better way to get out of a sexual act than a medical excuse. I can hear them now, " I would baby, but you know that I can get throat cancer or a yeast infection  *Sidenote: Yes, many Ghanaian men will tell you that oral sex gives you throat cancer. Fortunate for women, God has made them immune......

I guess it goes to show, women have a long way before they are really equal.

Until Next Time. Smooches.


  1. i can't believe you wrote that. Truth chances may b 1 in a mil. but its still a chance.going bothways, d msg is b careful n stay faithful.

  2. Francis, I had no choice. People also have a 1 in 1 million chance of being struck by lightening, and that doesn't make headline news. #Imjustsaying

  3. Even if there is greater than a 1 in a million chance...a yeast infection is not an STD. it's a common infection with an over the counter cure for women and if you by chance happen to get it in your throat(babies do all the time- it's called thrush) usually you can just eat some yogurt and be fine. I'm not mad that they are talking about risks...i'm mad they are calling candidiasis a risk!

  4. #Journalism Fail
    Agreeing with anonymous, there is higher chance a man contracting the other 27 other STIs than candidiasis.

    The funny thing about this article is that the author took the actual facts (yes one can get oral candidiasis or thrush) and tweeked them to fit the article (leaving out that certain illnesses, stress, or medications can disturb the delicate balance, causing the fungus candida to grow out of control can also cause thrush.)

    What is worse is the author decides just list late stage symptoms of untreated thrush (maybe the author was trying to get in the shock factor) instead of providing a thorough explanation of infection.

    I won't even touch the cancer claim because a 20 second Google search would have debunked that.

  5. All I can do is laugh at this because you're right the risk of thrush (which is commonly seen and cured in children) is small BUT the larger failure is that if you are going to talk about the dangers of oral sex can we get some equality in the news. At least talk about things that people have a better chance of getting like Herpes or even talk about "protection" that exists like dental dam and flavored condoms since people will probably do it any way. A hot azz mess is what this is but not unexpected.

  6. I agree with all of you. I think a health and hygiene angle would have been way more appropriate.

  7. Hi, I'm reading this blog post almost 2 years late but I just found out on the internet that 10% of men & 3% of women are infected with HPV through oral sex & this could cause cancer
    However, I agree with distinctive1 that instead of condemning oral sex, they should have suggested dental dams & flavored condoms because all sex is risky, indeed, vaginal sex is by far riskier than oral sex in many instances. So, if these doctors are so concerned with preventing any diseases/ deaths arising from sex, then they should advise all Ghanaian women, especially their wives, never have sex with them/ their husbands again. You see, in Ghana & Africa, married women are one of the most 'at-risk' groups for HIV because they have unprotected sex with their husbands & these men are typically unfaithful to them (since polygamy is allowed, having mistresses isn't discouraged so lots of married men in Ghana have mistresses & see nothing wrong with it). I'm fed up with our professionals using flimsy so-called 'scientific' reasons to condemn acts that they consider personally (or morally) reprehensible. I once read an article in this same 'Mirror' by a Ghanaian doctor who claimed that masturbation could cause sicknesses! In the 21st century such myths are still peddled. Oh & the BS in the story is evident in that they seem to be encouraging men to abstain from oral sex but not women when both are susceptible to HPV. Shows their real intentions! Sexist, chauvinistic bunch of people.

  8. My heart really goes out to these young women and men! I mean....this is not some light tremor type thing. They are having some constant uncontrolled body movements. I just pray that somebody figures out what's going on. genital warts treatment

  9. Wow, I married a Ghanaian in 2010. He's a subchief. That was one thing he stated, I don't perform oral sex because it causes cancer. He further stated that he have sex if it's harmonious and the mood predicts it. So I found us having sex every three months. I was floored! He lied about having a wedding ring once he arrived to meet me. He stayed a month in Connecticut with a Ghanaian friend of his before he arrived to me. He spent most of our marriage talking on the phone or hanging around other Africans. Never to much wanting to spend time with his wife. He didn't jive with my African-American mad woman language. I never cared for his false arrogant pride and lack of socializing with your spouse. Long story short, I wanted to move to Ghana, instead I moved away from him. Our every three to six months of sex led me to have encounters briefly with a Skype partner after holding on for three years. He had nerves to be upset stating this Nigerian is only conning me out of money which I never sent, it was merely satisfaction and being tired and done with being married but living in a place as strangers. I think he should have been pleased it was on Skype and not physical which I wouldn't have done. So he wouldn't have sex either way. I think he was only looking for a mother for his boys, stating their mum died in a car accident, even if that's true.

  10. This is so true with many Ghanaian men They rather live in 19 century era. Without having to make any changes.