Tweet They often say that when you dont like someone, its because they have qualities very similar to yours. I have found, over the years, that this is true. The traits I find less than desirable about myself, are even less desirable for those I interact with. So when I started this job and found myself quickly agitated by a temporary staffer and I had to ask why? After all, she is only here for another 10 days (brief pause for a praise dance), but yet still, as we say in the South, this woman makes my ass itch!
So as I found myself wanting to bitch slap her for coming to my cubicle yesterday, I had to wonder why is it I dislike her so much and then an ex-boss' words ran through my head, "People think you are a jerk."
You see at 27 I learned I was a jerk. Of course, I had had a sneaking suspicion for years, but this was the first time someone had ever had the balls to tell me. Now let me clarify, I was not a jerk because I purposefully mistreated people, I was a jerk because I thought I was smarter than everyone else. Not only did I think I was smarter, but I also didnt know what team work was. At that time, teamwork for me was developing a project and presenting it to people for feedback, but for some reason noone ever had any feedback. Then I learned why. In teamwork, you dont keep all the information and develop a project by yourself and then ask for feedback- you get the feedback first and then make a product. People are always more interested when they feel a sense of true collaboration- after all, who wants to look bad.
Fortunately, I had someone who was willing to tell me that I sucked. It's unfortunate that this woman has not had the same; especially since retirement is soon upon her.....at least I am hoping for future co-workers' sake.
In the meanwhile, as the work day wraps up, let me put one more X on the calendar. 9 days to go *sigh*
Until Next Time. Smooches.