Tuesday, June 18, 2013

Gossip Guy

Sometimes living in Accra, Ghana, often seems like reliving high school. There are the pretentious kids, who are living off of their parents legacy, the popular ones who seem to be everywhere all the time, the rejects who just keep themselves to avoid all the drama and then, of course, everyone's favorite, the gossips, also known as the mean kids..you know the ones who are secretly insecure and are consistently trying to gauge why they are better than someone else.

The sad thing about this phenomena, is that, in Accra, many of the men seem to fall into gossip group. For those who have known me for years, you know that 80% of my friends have always been males. Mainly because we can fight and be cool the next day and, well, they do make great protectors if my big mouth gets me in trouble.Most importantly though, we don't gossip. We discuss our ambitions, how we can work together, bust a quick freestyle, but we never discuss other people's business. Why, because we don't care about what the next person is doing, unless it has a direct effect on us.

But here in Accra, I, and many other women, have noticed that many of these dudes seem to be bitch made. Since relocating to Accra, I have noticed that a large group of men sit around in circles collecting information, either from women or each other, only so they can try to relay to someone else what they think they know is going on.

I crack up at the slick mouthed dude, who tries to evoke some emotion from me based on some information pilfered from a third party source, especially when I know they don't know what they hell they are talking about. These moments also make me grateful how much I have grown over the past decade plus, because those who know me from the Jackson State years, know that I really don't take kind to undercover comments, and yes, I have been known to embarrass people on a wide scale level. Why you may ask? Because I am never embarrassed about anything I do, nor do I ever feel the need to justify it. I admit, I don't like everyone and I am ok with that. It is a well known fact that I date, but also know that I have a variety of guy friends, which I am not dating. Despite your jaded perception men and women can be just friends. I have been successful at it for more than two decades. And yes, I am in all of the right circles, because I am a master networker; I owe that attribute to Capitol Hill.

All I can do is hope that one day these feminine dudes in Accra  grow out of this bitchassedness and eventually enter into manhood. Where men mind their own business and not the affairs of others. Because after all, we aren't making each other money. So I leave you with this to think about:

Great minds discuss ideas, Average minds discuss events and small minds discuss people. Good luck.

Until Next Time. Smooches.


  1. I read this and laughed to myself because more often than not when im with the fellas we generally don't gossip but every now and then someone brings up something funny or stupid one of us has done and a discussion of the what if"s or I would have dones gets started,

  2. I goth the sense here that you were pretty fed up, be encourage. One thing here in Africa is that people do gossip a lot and if you are able to get over it without loosing your positive self behavior, you achieve something worth buying yourself a diamond ring.;=) africarock2011