Thursday, June 6, 2013

White Man Fever

In Ghana there is an epidemic. It is startling, unnerving and really, when you look at it, completely disgusting. What is this phenomena you may ask? White Man Fever, aka, young Ghanaian women dating white diplomats and businessmen. Now, let's clarify. I am not against interracial dating. My little sister is married to a white guy and I have dated several white men in my past. I also support the well rounded, educated Ghanaian women who are involved in interracial relationships. But the difference between all of us and the girl who hasn't finished junior high school or senior high school, is that we are all evenly yoked with our mates.

It is very unfortunate that not all Ghanaian women have this same advantage. As I may have pointed out in the past, education is not free in Ghana. So although school technically is free, families must still be able to provide uniforms, books, transportation and food for their school aged children....which can quickly add up. So often times what happens is not everyone in the household goes to school. It is also sad, that the college system here is highly competitive. With only a few universities in the country, only the best students get placements at universities like University of Ghana Legon and Kwame Nkrumah University of Science and Technology. Furthermore, like most things in Africa, college expenses are paid out of pocket; so this means, you either have the money to go to college or you don't.

As a result, it seems many young girls, due to familial circumstances are unable to attend school. So what do they do? They aim high. They date high profile married men, diplomatic staff members and other members of the expatriate community. Now, its not upsetting that they are trying to marry up, because let's face it women love security. However, I do think its unfortunate that many of these women can't intellectually spar with these men, making them vulnerable to emotional and mental abuse. The part that really pisses me off,  most of these women don't even realize it.

I have heard a successful white businessman, call the young African girl he was with stupid, while she affectionately looked on because she didn't get the analogy between wood and her head. I have seen white men, with little experience in the country, make blanket statements about Ghanaians while their dates politely chew their meals not daring to challenge her potential love. Because after all, she needs him.....at least financially.

But at what point does it become too much? And at what cost does it come? When I was in America, any American would have jumped on anyone who said anything negative about America or its people, and as an African-American, I bet not let a white boy talk to me crazy just because I am interested in tasting some white chocolate.

But here it is acceptable, and its scary that marrying up is more important than marrying a man who respects and understands you. It also makes me grateful that I am not only educated enough to know when someone is insulting me, but also know that I don't have to take it. America, may not be the best country in the world, but at least it has taught me that I deserve the best and I don't need a man to get it.


Until Next Time Smooches.

6 comments:

  1. I have been working in Nigeria for the past few years I have a home in Accra an have land in the central region of Ghana I plan to wed a Ghanaian women and live in Ghana but if we have a child I would prefer our children to be born in the united states. whereas my wife to be likes the USA but our home is in Ghana we have more freedom in Ghana I want only the best for our family

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    1. hello,
      i am a ghanaian woman working in the coporate world and due to that i dont have a man in my life. i would like to give us a try

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  2. Its an inferiority complex that a lot of women have in Ghana that makes them believe that everyone light-skinned is superior.Sad but true

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  3. Just because I'm a white older man doesn't mean I'm a bad guy. I treat everyone with respect regardless of age. Maybe I'm the exception here in Accra maybe not.... but I know how and who I am.

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  4. I can't wait to visit this beautiful country....

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  5. I am coming to Ghana soon.

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