Wednesday, January 22, 2014

10 Things Ghanaians Say When You Are Over 30 and Unmarried

Well, since this is becoming a new trend. I decided I too should jump on it, but with a twist. Welcome to my world of being a spinster in Africa, yes it can be very annoying some days, but also entertaining. Hope you enjoy.

10. Have You Born Yet- Yes, I am sure this is a funny phrase to most Americans, but whenever I am asked this question an intense look of worry crosses the face of the interrogator. Truth of the matter is that I have learned most Ghanaians are more worried about if I have had children than if I am married. I guess it is there way of ensuring that I am in fact "serious" in some way or perhaps they are just making sure that I am not a lesbian corrupting their holistic society.Either way the answer to question is, yes, I have no children. And an additional vote of  thanks goes to you for pointing out the fact that I only have so many years left to give birth. Because well, I totally forgot women don't have babies all their lives! Silly me!

9.  You Are Too Pretty Not To Be Married- Thanks for assuring me that its not my looks holding me back. It's obvious there is some other personality flaw that I should address....NOT. But really, I don't think looks is a qualifier for marriage. If anything its harder for me; after all, I am pretty. Besides I can see only one great thing that marriage may contribute to my life..after all its tough to look good all the time.

8. You Should Pray About It- Now I will admit, I do get on my knees..even for a more spiritual purpose from time to time. I can assure you that God and I have an understanding about my future boo. In the meanwhile though I don't think that Ruth found Boaz while she was deep in prayer. She found him while she was working in the field. So please excuse me, I do have work to do. And yes, socializing is considered work

7.  Do You Cook?- The answer is no..and I will agree they may be on to something here. Yes, I know that I should cook more often. And once I get married to a husband who makes if financially possible for me to pursue all of my domestic interests I promise to be the next Betty Crocker. In fact, I will out do Betty Crocker and I will be the ultimate kick ass domestic goddess. In the meanwhile please don't forget, I have work to do. But please don't let my lack of time to prepare food make you think that I can't cook...because sometimes..only sometimes I can. In fact my cooking skills are sort of like a line from Big Pimpin. I have no passion and I hate waiting (yes, I know its patience, but be a doll and.go with the flow).

Funny Confession Ecard: I have a passion for not cooking.

6. You Have to Try- Here comes the looong sigh. Me personally I don't know anyone who is over 30 who is not actively trying to date a decent person. Not one. Sometimes I wonder what trying really means. Is it double talk for let someone treat you like crap and overlook so you can marry. If so, I can confidently say that I am not interested. Oh, but I am trying and having some fun along the way. I am, after all, really, really pretty.

5. You Don't Need A Husband to Have A Baby- Now this one relates to number 1. I am always shocked and amazed at the people who feel I should just have a baby without being in a serious committed relationship. Not to say that the advice given has helped me form a solid back-up plan, but who knew such strong Christians would be more concerned with rushing me to the delivery room than down the aisle. Please I have heard your cries people and I will multiply. I am , in fact, aware of my superior genes and the great  contribution they could make to this earth. Remain calm, I have a plan.


4.  You Should Be Harder- The truth is I am already hard. I already don't distribute my number on first encounters, turn down dates, don't return calls and hell, sometimes I even pull the ultimate bitch move and stand people up. If I get any harder I will spend my days and weekends in my room praying about it. Now I will admit when I like a guy I do like a guy, but let's be honest I really only like 3% of the men that I meet..and that is a generous figure. Plus I feel this is in direct contradiction to the advice that I should try. I guess when your single over 30 every move is a wrong move. 

                                                    Girls, playing hard to get since, forever. 

 3. What Are You Waiting For? This is a great question and I always want to reward the person who asked it with the village idiot cap. Fool, how about I am waiting for the right man. I didn't know I could get married or have children without a man. But if you know a way please enlighten me. Until then I will just x the days down on my calendar, watch my friends uber cute wedding and baby pics, while eating snickers. Wait, I can't eat snickers I can't get fat until I am married. *le sigh* Plus considering my history of failed relationships I think its better I take my time or else....


2.  I have a Nephew/Son/Random Neighbor You Should Meet- Now being over 30 single with no children this is the last thing you want to hear. I think once you are past a certain age you aren't willing to waste your time on some whimsical date set up by someone who barely knows you. Besides, I probably dont even want to be in the hooker upper's family. I am very particular about genes. And did I mention I will not be applying for the gentleman to travel abroad ever?!?! I would rather be alone than grant U.S. citizenship and receive cards like these...unless maybe there was a lot of money in the cards. Hey, its Ghana, everything is for sale.


1. Do You Like Men- Now this is an odd question because inevitably most people who ask this question have seen me with a guy or heard me talk about a guy. Because well let's be honest you have to be pretty comfortable to ask that question in Ghana. But perhaps they have been carried away with news about Wanda Sykes and watching old reruns of Grey's Anatomy, you know the episodes with the lesbian doctor..whatever her name was, and have come to the conclusion its the new trend of American women. Whatever the case may be I guess the only reason such a pretty, eligible woman would not be married is if she is gay. Funny though, in Ghana I know more gay people inside of marriages than out. Wait..oops did I say that? Whatever it may be, rest assured I do hope to get married and and have children. Despite the doubt in my capability.

So if you laughed at least once hit the share button and spread the love. After all, I know I am not the only African spinster you know.

Until Next Time. Smooches.


  1. Oh but if I haven't gone through such encounters here in the US as well. I was even asked "What's wrong with you that you have no children"...really...

  2. I love this post Cordie. I'm stil ROTFLOL.... :D

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  4. you had me rolling on the floor. funny lady

  5. This started for me when I was 25 ...but it was more of a “you’re running out of time, hurry up!”